It is not easy to broach this topic, but research clearly demonstrates that parents can influence their children to make better decisions and having open and honest conversations is one of the most powerful ways to connect with them. When addressing difficult topics like substance use, it's about having ongoing, organic conversations and explaining the dangers and risks in an age-appropriate way.

Having Tough Conversations

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Good Communication between parents and children is the foundation of strong family relationships. Developing good communication skills helps parents connect with their children and catch problems early. Stay calm and be compassionate even during tough conversations. Refrain from judgement, blame or criticism. Ask questions to elicit answers rather than lecture. Listen with respect and remain engaged.

Using active listening is an important skill in communication.

Try to understand why your child is vaping and be aware that vaping can quickly become very addictive and habit-forming. Get their perspective and help them weigh the risks by having science-based facts ready to discuss.

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Don’t start the conversation when your child is intoxicated or under the influence. Think about your goals in having this conversation and remain calm. Express how much you care and that you just want them to be healthy and safe. Listen to what they have to say without anger or judgment.

How to start the conversation

There are signs that a loved one may be having a problem with substances. When someone you care about asks you for help, recognize that this is an important first step. Try to get them to get an evaluation from a doctor with expertise in addiction, or you can take steps to locate a provider and leave the information with your loved one. Tell your loved one that treatment works and people recover every day – you will be there to support them however you can.

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When friends and family show they care, it can help a loved one get treatment and stick with it, even when it is difficult. You can help find treatment services and information, offer rides to support groups, help them find a place to live or work if they need to, help distract them and avoid places that might tempt them to use substances, and be understanding if they relapse as that is often part of recovery.

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As a parent, you are the biggest influence in your child’s life and having open, honest conversations is one of the most powerful ways to connect with your kids and help them develop into healthy adults. It is never too early to start talking about making healthy life choices and building the skills needed to face challenges when they arise. When addressing difficult topics – like nicotine, alcohol or drugs – it’s about keeping the lines of communication open and having frequent conversations that evolve as your child gets older, and always making sure you come from a place of love and compassion.

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